How To Not Care What People Think About You

young woman looking out, worrying about what people are thinking

The eyes of others our prisons; their thoughts our cages.– Virginia Woolf

Most people are victims of an odd obsession, one that causes them to spend their time worrying about what other people are thinking.

It’s odd because it’s just guesswork; pure fantasy that we create in our minds.

Somewhere inside of us, we know this truth, but we continue nonetheless.

And it is this incessant fascination with what fills the minds of other people that is the cause of so much anxiety and worry.

It’s time to quit this habit. It’s time to take back control of your mind. It’s time to stop caring what others think of you.

But let’s take this one step at a time.

First, we need to explore the reasons why you care so much what anyone thinks.

Then we need to identify some of the things that might be making the situation worse.

And, finally, we’ll dive into some of the ways that you can break free from this need to dwell so long on the thoughts of others.

Let’s begin…

Why Do I Care What People Think Of Me?

There isn’t a single cause or reason why we worry so much about the perceptions of other people. There are many.

Identifying the combination of reasons why YOU care so much about how you come across to others is vital if you are to begin to care less and eventually not care much at all.

Most of the reasons stem from one part of your psyche…

The Ego

Your ego is the part of you that you likely identify with most. It is the “I” that speaks much of the time; the “self” that you refer to.

And it’s not all bad. The ego sometimes plays an important positive role in how we act or feel or view the world.

But the ego also generates some of the negative thought patterns we experience, including our obsession with what others think of us.

Why does it do this?

Self-doubt: when we are unsure in ourselves and our abilities, we look to others to provide reassurance. We ask them to fill our ephemeral, ethereal beings with confidence.

We seek regular reinforcement of our fragile self-belief so that we may push our self-doubt down into a dark corner of our minds where it cannot affect us.

The problem comes when we do not receive the necessary words of encouragement from others to convince us of our self-worth.

Instead, we turn to our imaginations and construct our own versions of what others think. We fabricate their opinions of us.

But when you already feel insecure, the thoughts that you put into other people’s heads are likely to be less than kind.

You project your feelings of self-doubt outwards and convince yourself that others have the same doubts about you that you have of yourself.

If you think of yourself as weak, you believe that others see you as weak. If you worry that you’re not attractive, you convince yourself that others think you’re ugly.

Whatever negative thoughts you have about yourself become the negative thoughts other people must have of you too. This is what you tell yourself.

If you are self-confident, however, this need for reassurance is markedly reduced and so you worry less about what others are thinking.

The need to be liked: another way in which we put a value on our selves is by judging how well liked we are by others.

We want to feel like we belong, we want to be a part of something, we want to believe that we can depend on those around us should we need their help in times of trouble.

This is why loneliness is so detrimental to our mental health. When we have no one around us, we have no safety net to catch us when we fall.

And even when we have friends and loved ones in our lives, can we ever really be sure what they think of us and how far they would go to lend a hand?

That nagging self-doubt we just spoke about will rear its ugly head and cause us to doubt the true feelings of our friends and family.

We worry too much about the thoughts of others because they are hidden from us. They are unknowns and this scares us.

Until we can be sure that a good friend truly is a friend and not someone who


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In our yang-driven world where action and accomplishment reign supreme, it’s easy to neglect our yin-ness, the softer side of us that prefers to be, not do. As women especially, connecting with our feminine energy on a regular basis is vital to our sense of self, hormonal health and overall happiness. Ancient Goddess traditions understood and honored the many gifts of the divine feminine, and reclaiming them now can be just the balance us modern goddesses need.

If you’re ready to reignite your own feminine magic, here are 10 ways to get started:

  1. Guard your being time

Take back your feminine power by booking in some much needed me time to reconnect with your inner self. Whether it’s morning meditation, an afternoon catnap or watching the sunset, treat this time like any other appointment by not canceling on yourself to do the laundry or more work.

  1. Be open to receiving

Receptivity is the essence of feminine energy, enabling us to live in the flow instead of frustration. Next time someone offers you a compliment or support, graciously say, Thank you! And don’t be afraid to ask for help from family, friends, kids, peers and professionals. Remember, the more you allow yourself to receive, the more you have to give.

  1. Surround yourself with beauty

Turn your personal space into a goddess sanctuary by clearing out clutter and adding things that delight your senses and your spirit. Try beautiful plants and fresh flowers, lush fabrics, wind chimes, sea shells, crystals or other gifts from Mama Earth. Adorn your walls with art and pictures that uplift and inspire you. Make every part of your home fit for the goddess that you are.

  1. Nourish your dreams

Just as we conceive and support babies in our wombs, the Goddess approach to manifesting our desires is to nurture them while they are still ideas and daydreams. As we cultivate quiet time to connect with our inner vision and guidance, we take action from a place of joy and trust. In doing so, we birth our dreams into being in divinely inspired ways and divinely perfect time, just as we do our babies.

  1. Slow down and relish

Multitasking is not the way of the Goddess, especially when it comes to appreciating life’s simple pleasures. Instead, become fully present and engage all your senses to enjoy daily delights: inhale the scent of your morning coffee and sip it slowly, let a piece of chocolate melt in your mouth, stop power walking and savor the sights.

  1. Love your body

Aphrodite had small breasts, a soft belly and full hips. Her huntress niece goddess Artemis was lanky and lean. Do you think they apologized for their shapes? Heck no. They owned their bodies’ divinity to express their goddess’ gifts, be they love or tenacity. Embrace your own body as a beautiful, sacred vessel for your spirit to experience itself and treat it with the love and reverence it deserves. Try it out with this flow sequence flow sequence based on the goddess Lakshmi, who represents beauty and abundance.

  1. Live from your heart

We are naturally feeling beings, but life’s busyness can hinder us from hearing the voice of our hearts – the true source of our happiness. Reconnect by placing your hands on your chest and resting your awareness in this sacred space. Here, the mind’s constant activity will surrender to the heart’s calm clarity, leading you to live in greater faith and deeper love.

  1. Connect with Mother Nature

Instantly connect with Goddess energy by spending time with Mother Earth. Walk barefoot on the grass and lie on the ground. Release all your cares to her for healing and transmutation. Allow her to hold you in her loving embrace and fill you with maternal love. Doing this regularly will help you become a strong and grounded goddess in your own world.

  1. Honor your boundaries

Forget trying to please everyone and love yourself enough to say no to draining demands. Bless and release toxic relationships and patterns while keeping the lessons and growth. Stand firm in the power of an authentic no. A goddess isn’t a superwoman who does it all, but a happy woman who does only what she wants and values.

  1. Infuse your life with ritual

Goddess traditions, like those in this practice with Sianna Sherman  are rich with ritual, because they bring deeper meaning and sacredness to any act. Invite extra blessings into your daily activities by turning them into mini ceremonies. A great place to start is your existing sadhana (daily spiritual practice), by perhaps creating a meditation altar where you can light a candle, burn incense, play music and offer flowers.

While effort and achievement will always have their place in the world, balancing them with sacred feminine practices will bring us much greater flow and fulfillment. As we learn to be as much as we do, the inner Goddess and God meet in divine union, creating perfect yin-yang harmony within and without. Now that is something worth striving for.

By Gaia Staff 


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