5 ways to survive being quarantined with your partner, according to a couple’s therapist by Amy Morin

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  • Amy Morin is a psychotherapist, licensed clinical social worker, mental strength coach, and international bestselling author.
  • As a therapist, Morin has counseled many couples through challenging experiences in their relationships.
  • With the spread of the coronavirus, there’s a growing chance that you and your partner may be required to work from home.
  • This increase of close quarters may be welcoming for some couples, and stressful for others — here’s 5 ways to handle the situation.
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Being confined to a small space together can be quite stressful for any couple. But add in the stress of the outbreak of a potentially life-threatening illness, and you might find even further trouble tolerating one another.

Fortunately, there are some ways to help one another get through quarantine. Here’s what you can do to ensure that your relationship survives being confined in a small room together:

Help each other deal with the emotional rollercoaster

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From anger to fear, the quarantine will likely stir up a lot of emotion. And you might experience these emotions coming in waves.

You may find yourselves laughing one minute and crying just a short time later. And of course, you’re likely to be bored and frustrated in between. This is all normal when faced with such a highly stressful and unfamiliar situation as quarantine. There’s little known about what to expect, what might happen, or when you will be able to leave.

Help one another ride this emotional rollercoaster. Rather than minimize your partner’s feelings by saying, “Oh there’s nothing to be scared about,” say things like, “I know this is a scary situation.” Just knowing that you’re listening can provide a big sense of relief for your partner.

Focus on being kind and respectful

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Any stressful situation can cause you to grow a bit irritable and snarky with one another. But under normal circumstances, you can walk away and take a break. Obviously, you can’t do that when you’re quarantined in the same room.

Make it a goal to treat your partner with kindness — even when you don’t feel like it. Apologize when you are unkind, and forgive your partner for being rude at times as well.

Keep in mind that even though there aren’t a lot of things you can control when you’re quarantined, one thing you can control is how you treat one another. So make it a goal to remain kind and respectful despite feeling stressed out.

Practice healthy coping skills

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Use simple ways to manage your stress. 
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When you’re quarantined, you won’t have access to many of the coping skills you’ve likely grown accustomed to in managing distress — like walking around the neighborhood or going for a drive to listen to music. Consequently, you might find yourself feeling a bit helpless when it comes to managing your mood.

Fortunately, there are some simple coping strategies you can turn to even when you’re quarantined. Meditation, yoga, breathing exercises, drawing, listening to music, reading a book, or just pacing around the room might decrease your stress and help you feel better.

Work on managing your emotions so you can be the best partner you are able to under the circumstances. Talk about the skills that are working for you, and offer to assist your partner

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CRYSTALS THE POWER OF AMETHYST HEALING PROPERTIES BY HEATHER ASKINOSIE

Amethyst Healing Properties

Amethyst crystals are generally one of the first gems people are attracted to when begin their crystal healing journey. This doesn’t come as much of a surprise since amethyst healing properties have been valued for thousands of years. As early as 25,000 B.C, the Neolithic people in Europe and the ancient Egyptians prized it for its beauty and legendary energies. Greek and Roman societies also placed high value on the Amethyst healing powers. It has long been considered a gemstone of royalty, being used in the crowns, scepters and rings of bishops.  Amethyst is said to have been the ninth stone in the breastplate of the high priest of Israel, and one of the ten stones upon which the names of the tribes of Israel were engraved. With all this rich history, there must be a reason so many different ancient civilizations harnessed the properties of Amethyst.

Amethyst Healing Properties

Meditate with Amethyst

Amethyst crystals are exceptional for providing spiritual protection, inner strength and clarity of mind, making them a classic meditation tool. Meditating with them can help you to become more in tune with your feelings, helping you to get to know yourself on a much deeper level. It also stimulates the crown chakra and calms your thoughts, making it a powerful aid in meditation.

Relieve Stress and Relax

Amethyst healing properties also include acting as a natural form of stress relief. This crystal attracts positive energy while ridding your body of any negative emotions—feelings of stress, anxiety, fear, depression and more. The healing properties of Amethyst help to clear your body’s energy field of all negative energies and influences, acting as an energetic shield that creates a bubble of spiritual light around your body.

Amethyst healing properties

Place Amethyst in Your Home

Aside from what they can do for your body, amethyst crystals are one of the most beneficial stones to have in your environment. Due to this, many people fill their homes with them—in their bedroom, living room, bathroom, car, office, meditation room etc.—so that the amethyst healing properties constantly surround and protect them. These crystals work to purify any space of negative vibrations, emanating an energy ideal for you to thrive in. They help to clear the mind of unnecessary thoughts and clutter. On a physical level, having amethyst crystals in your home is believed to help strengthen the immune system and heal any imbalances that lie in the body.

Amethyst clusters and Amethyst geodes carry the strongest power to rid your home of negative energy, making them the best ones to fill your home with. These crystals can be placed on your fireplace or your altar—somewhere central in your house, so that the amethyst healing properties can radiate to every room. They also make wonderful additions to a child’s

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Take that damn mask off! By The Silver Sage Witch

Hello lovely people.  Do you put on a mask sometimes, like everything in your life is going great, but in reality, your soul is crying because the darkness is closing in around you and you’re lonely?  A lot of people are like this, and they refuse to admit it.

Most of the time we put on that brave, smiling face that we show the world and refuse to show our real feelings for fear of being hurt…that’s understandable.  But what can we do when it gets too bad?

Here are a few tips:

  1.  Take off that damn mask!  You certainly don’t need to wear it 24/7.  It’s not necessary to be everyone’s rock, everyone’s savior.
  2. You are allowed to be YOURSELF! It’s a bad idea to try and be someone that everyone wants you to be.  Trust me, it may work for a while, but in the long run, you are the one who will come out the worst for wear in this situation.
  3. Try and make wherever you are living as cozy and comfy as possible. Now, this should go without saying, but a lot of people kind of forget that they can and should do this.  They get so used to how their surroundings look and don’t realize that they can change things to make it more appealing to their liking.  I’m not saying that you need to buy a lot of things to achieve this change, but I am saying that you can move your furniture around or perhaps paint a wall or two.  Get a plant that you love or paint a few pictures (abstract painting works well if you don’t think you are a good painter), and hang them on the walls.
  4. Take up reading, if you haven’t already.  When I lived in America, I used to love to go to the library, check out a pile of books that moved my soul, and read till my hearts’ content.
  5. Meet up with friends for something nice to eat or drink together.
  6. Cook a meal, using a new recipe.
  7. Take a hot shower (or a long hot bubble bath, if you’re lucky enough to have a bathtub).  Afterward, take the time to spoil yourself by rubbing on some deliciously scented oil or lotion.
  8. Go for a walk….doesn’t matter where.  Just get yourself out of the house and go for a walk to clear your mind.  Trust me, you will feel better afterward.
  9. Meditate. It’s really not such a bad thing ya know. It will raise your vibration, which there, in turn, will make you feel better.  Meditation isn’t always just sitting in the lotus position with nothing in your head. There are all different types of ways to meditate.  Try some of them…you might figure out that you really like meditation. 🙂
  10. Make a list of all the things, people, and situations that you’re thankful for.  Be sure to make it as detailed as possible.  Really get into your mind and think about the little things that you have, or have happened to /for you and write them down.  I find that it’s always a good thing to have some kind of a journal so you can do this every day…or as often as you possibly can.

Please note that YOU DO NOT NEED TO WEAR A MASK ALL THE TIME.  It’s important to remember this because sometimes we forget.

You are human, and we all have feelings.  Remember this and above all,

be true to yourself.

Blessed Be

 

The terrifying story of the ‘hell hound’ – BBC News



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Terrifying tales of “hell hounds” – ferocious black dogs, eyes glowing and teeth bared as they wreak vengeance on the population – have been the stuff of legend for centuries. It has cemented the place of these mythical beasts in English folklore, but how and why have accounts of their terrifying marauding spread so far and wide?

In 1577, according to one particularly poetic account, a snarling beast broke into a church, rampaged through the congregation and bit the necks of two people – who promptly dropped dead.

Having traumatised the churchgoers of Bungay in Suffolk, the mythical dog – known as Black Shuck – next cropped up on the county’s coast at Blythburgh.

Again, it targeted worshippers – bursting though the doors of Holy Trinity Church before killing a man and boy and causing the steeple to collapse.

The beast

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The True Story Behind The Legend of Sleepy Hollow -by Amanda Pallay

The True Story Behind The Legend of Sleepy Hollow - Quicken Loans Zing BlogI have always loved scary stories. From watching Scooby Doo religously every afternoon at my grandma’s house to reading my first horror novel (“It” by Stephen King) when I was in 4th grade, I was born a connoisseur of the frightening. I remember one of the most interesting and terrifying stories to me was The Legend of Sleepy Hollow. My first exposure to it was through the Disney movie “The Adventures of Icabod and Mr. Toad” – a movie that was one half “The Wind in the Willows” and one half “The Legend of Sleepy Hollow.”

Through the silly, soft lens of Walt Disney, that version wasn’t nearly as horrifying as later adaptations, but it sparked some kind of real fear in me as a child – and I loved it.

Everyone knows the story of The Legend of Sleepy Hollow with its tale of Ichabod Crane the slight, yet smart, schoolteacher, and the menacing Headless Horseman. But I wonder how many people know that  its author, Washington Irving, drew inspiration from real-life

I have always loved scary stories. From watching Scooby Doo religously every afternoon at my grandma’s house to reading my first horror novel (“It” by Stephen King) when I was in 4th grade, I was born a connoisseur of the frightening. I remember one of the most interesting and terrifying stories to me was The Legend of Sleepy Hollow. My first exposure to it was through the Disney movie “The Adventures of Icabod and Mr. Toad” – a movie that was one half “The Wind in the Willows” and one half “The Legend of Sleepy Hollow.”

Through the silly, soft lens of Walt Disney, that version wasn’t nearly as horrifying as later adaptations, but it sparked some kind of real fear in me as a child – and I loved it.

Everyone knows the story of The Legend of Sleepy Hollow with its tale of Ichabod Crane the slight, yet smart, schoolteacher, and the menacing Headless Horseman. But I wonder how many people know that its author, Washington Irving, drew inspiration from real-life

 

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Why Are Black Cats Considered Bad Luck? BY KATE ERBLAND

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Feline friends and fans know there is nothing to fear from the world’s most cuddly creatures (sorry, red pandas, corgi puppies, and fluffy bunnies, this is a cat’s world), but the persistence of the pesky belief that black cats are somehow bad luck has endured for centuries. Sure, back during the heyday of Egyptian rule (around 3000 BC), all cats were notoriously honored and worshipped—killing one was even a capital crime—but the rise of good, old-fashioned witchcraft in Europe put the kibosh on any trace of goodwill towards the inkiest of felines, and the all-black brethren are still trying to distance themselves from the bad press of a witchcraft affiliation.

Black cats pop up frighteningly frequently in all sorts of culturally based bits of folklore, and though much of their mythos is actually of the positive variety, Western tradition has so maligned the critters that black cats as bad luck have become something of a given in various circles (at least, that’s what it looks like once Halloween decorations start popping up, “scaredy cats” and all).

The Middle Ages

It seems that the association between bad luck and black cats dates all the way back to the middle of the fourteenth century. It’s not known exactly how and why cats became associated with the Devil in the Middle Ages, but the belief was so persistent that they were all but exterminated during the Black Death pandemic around 1348 CE. (Pause to cry.) Ironically, killing off the cats only worsened the plague, which was often spread via rodents, which all those dearly departed cats could have helped kill. Oopsie!

Scottish Folklore

Scottish folklore includes a fairy known as the Cat Sith, a giant black cat (with a small white spot on his chest) who was believed to have the ability to steal a dead person’s soul before the gods could claim it. That belief led to the creation of night-and-day watches called the “Late Wake” to guard bodies just before burial. The Scottish also employed such tried and true methods as “using catnip” and “jumping around a lot” to scare off potential Cat Sith soul-stealers. (Some things never change, even when you’re dealing with possibly fairy-infused felines.)

The Age of Witchcraft

Blame black magic. As chatter about nefarious witchcraft began to spread around Europe in the sixteenth century, cats (particularly black ones) found themselves tangled up in the hunt, simply because many presumed witches had taken in alley cats as companions. Somehow, the concept of “companion” turned into “familiar,” and the belief that witches could turn themselves into their (typically black) cat companions became

What makes graveyards scary? Why graveyards are scary?

Under the wat­chful gaze of crumbling saints and baby-f­aced cherubs, you hurry down a path lined with mausoleums. Eventually, you pass crops of headstones glinting in the moonlight, each engraved with the CliffsNotes version of the dead person’s life. You practically run past sunken graves and dying flowers, hoping upon hope that the sound you hear is just the wind and trying to shake the feeling that something is following close on your heels.

All right, so maybe you’ve never taken a midnight shortcut through the local cemetery. But if you have ever set foot in a graveyard, you’ve likely felt a hint of the fear and uneasiness that is their legacy. Maybe you were attending a family funeral, touring historic graveyards or simply fleeing flying silver spheres and hooded dwarves.

­Whatever your reason for strolling among the tombstones, you probably felt something noteworthy about the experience — something different from all the other spaces and places that fill our lives. After all, graveyards are the final resting place for many of our dead. People say their last goodbyes there, sometimes returning year after year to leave flowers or say a few words.

No matter where you travel in the world, cemeteries frequently are silent and solemn settings. Whether the grounds are finely manicured or left to the weeds, graveyards exist as the place where the living contemplate the mysteries, tra­umas and heartbreaks associated with death.

­But why are so many people afraid of graveyards? Is it the thought of all those decaying bodies under the dirt or the idea of a bony arm emerging from the soil to grab your ankle and pull you into the underworld ? Or is it something deeper? On the next page, we’ll travel to a place full of dark secrets and hidden skeletons: the human brain.

What do cemeteries symbolize?

Cats often receive a bum rap for hanging out in cemeteries, but can we really blame them? After all, graveyards offer great feline amenities: choice napping spots, scratching trees and a generous selection of small animals to prey on. What would an 8-pound (3.6-kg) tabby want with your grandfather’s soul when there are so many squirrels around?

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Spooky necropolis or just prime catnapping territory?

­To cats, graveyards may just be another place to sleep away the afternoon, but to humans, they represent the mystery and the outrage of mortality. Like it or not, we’re all going to die. You may think you’ve accepted that fact, but it’s an issue humanity has struggled with for millennia. Unable to avoid it, we’ve tried to figure out what lies beyond its

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